Keeping the balance 🤹


Managing a dream is a lot of work, and takes some organization skills.  Anyone who intends to create their own career has a massive task ahead of them, and it is all too easy to get carried away trying to whittle away at the to-do list.  This often means spending an entire day answering emails, managing social media, and of course focusing on the business at hand. 

For Fat Stallion of course this means putting our hearts into the music, spending time crafting our songs and practicing solo and rehearsing as a group.  This also means brainstorming, tweaking, and playing again and again and again.  This is booking gigs and researching festivals, and keeping in touch with other musician friends.  But especially at the beginning, there is so much more to take into consideration, including day jobs and: keeping our sanity.

What is balance?

This I hope would be an easy answer, but as a work-a-holic from a young age, I understand this doesn't come easy for everyone. 

Simply put, having balance in your worklife means that you can allocate appropriate amounts of time to your work and to your own well-being.

We've all heard the adage: take care of yourself before others.  While at first this seems selfish, it's only logical.  If you are falling behind on sleep, on alone time, on food or anything else, how are you supposed to expect yourself to do anything at all?  A machine can only work as well as it is maintained, and so falling behind on self-care can be disastrous for a budding entrepreneur. 

how do i know if i have balance?

Stress is natural.  It is easy to assume that any amount of stress indicates a need to back off, but I would say that this isn't always true.  To me, stress means that maybe I could have organised my time better, maybe the task is very important to me, maybe I have high expectations of myself for something I don't know yet that I can do.  This is all too common for me anymore as a part of Fat Stallion, but if I have learned anything it is that I, and you, are far more capable than we thought.  

I get stressed even thinking about this blog!  But taking a step back from that initial anxiety showed me how much I care about the interactions that we as a band have with our audience and friends.  And so, this stress turned into fuel to make something helpful. ❤

So back to the question: How do you know if you have balance?  There are some questions you can ask:

"How am I sleeping lately?"

"Are my negative feelings outnumbering my positive feelings?"

"Am I accomplishing my goals?"

"are my timeline and self-set deadlines reasonable?"

If any of your answers make you suspicious, I would take a moment to think about that and find some way to re-evaluate.  You do what you need to do. :)

How do you create balance?

This answer is unique to each person who asks.  What I can do for you here and now is offer suggestions based on what I and the rest of the band like to do to keep ourselves running.  What do you like to do (beyond what you are making your career out of)?

For Riley, this means dedicating some of his time to his faith.  Attending his church and spending time with his friends, family, and acquaintances every week helps him focus his energy on his own health and purpose. 

For Light, this means focusing on his health in a more literal sense.  He spends a few nights a week with Jack Elliott at a Gracie Jiu Jitsu gym practicing his martial arts, and time at home practicing yoga and meditating.  Keeping his mental and physical game sharp helps him rejuvenate for his time in our music.

Other than practicing Gracie Jiu Jitsu with Light, Jack Elliott enjoys teaching his music students and spending time learning more about music production and putting it to practice in our studio.  Jack also spends his time working with words, you'll have to check out his Instagram to see some of his invoking poetry.

For myself, this means taking time to enjoy my other art interests, mostly my yarn crafts.  This week I spent my time turning frustration and stress into making some knitted winter hats for Light and I's nieces and nephews for Christmas.  Other times Light and I will fold Origami, or spend time painting or drawing. 

This week, we even spent our weekly FB livestream Date Night making crafts as a group! Check it out :)


At the end of the day, make living your life worthwhile.  Creating your career and putting all that you can into your work is a noble trait, but make sure you have enough left over to live your life as well.  Shoot, they even take the time to write about this idea in Forbes!  They even spent less time writing about it, it seems. 😂 

We really hope that you found this interesting and/or helpful, so please let me know your thoughts and comments down below!  And let me know you took the time to read by leaving a like!  You are all the best, and we're so excited to have you with us.

Thoughtfully and respectfully from all of us in Fat Stallion-

Emma Dawn, Jack Elliott, Riley, and Light ✌🐴❤